Marriage is a wonderful thing. I think all of you who are married or even desire to be some day would generally agree with me. Marriage is definitely from God. We see throughout scripture God teach us about covenants and a bond between a husband and wife. We know that when done right, marriage is the most beautiful thing in the world. One thing I know for sure is that Pamela Delarosby was designed specifically for me by God. He knew in advance that I needed a woman like her.
Now on to the practical stuff right. I have been married over 17 years. After 17 years you think to yourself that you may have it all figured out. You think you would know exactly what to say and when to say things. Or what to do and when to do it. And so on. Truth is all good marriages and relationships are perfected over time. Both Pamela and I continue to work on and better our relationship with each other and with our kids. I do know however about some things that will help you as a husband and help better your relationship with one another. Check it out.
DON’T ACT INTERESTED BE INTERESTED
I know what you are thinking. “I AM interested. It’s my wife yo!” I am pretty sure most of you just said this in your head. So you mean to tell me when she walks in the door on a Monday evening you are more interested in her and how her day went then you are about the Monday Night Football matchup? You know, the one you need just a touchdown and maybe 50 yards out of a RB for your fantasy football team to win. Ok. So maybe we need to be reminded to give her undivided attention. There are a lot of selfless acts involved in this thing we call marriage. Truly devote some time to your wife daily with no distractions and a lot of eye contact. BE interested in her day. Trust me.
TAKE THE LEAD
I know what happens here. You and your wife get a babysitter for your HOT date night. With everything you have going on during the day and week it is most of the time a spur of the moment thing. Because of that, a place to go or eat is not planned out. You two get in the car and back out of the driveway and the first question us guys ask is….”Where do you wanna go babe?” Now I will be the first to admit that I am guilty of doing this. Matter of fact I did it the other night. Of course we are not mind readers at all and nobody expects you to be. But what your wife doesn’t tell you is that she wants YOU to TAKE THE LEAD. Next time you have a date night I encourage you to have a plan in place. Know where you are going to eat, what movie you are going to watch and when it will all happen. This will make for a fun night from start to finish guaranteed. This also applies with parenting, watching TV shows and the occasional “trying new things…to eat”
LET HER PEEK
Everyone loves to take a peek. Who doesn’t like to peel back the corner of an unopened Christmas present to get a slight idea of what it could be? We as guys have to be reminded by our wives to “not peek” until the FULL outfit is assembled or the meal is completely finished and the list goes on. There is something satisfying about peeking to us as guys. Why are our wives any different? Let’s face it. Women are talkers. We know everything about their day even before they walk in the door. We read the tweets,see what they eat on instagram and occasionally Facebook stalk them. Us guys are not nearly as talkative as they are. All I am saying is allow them to at least peek into your life a little. Let them really know what is going on with you. What you watch on TV,magazines you read,friends you talk to and even books you read. Very frequently what I do is read a chapter of the latest book I am reading to my wife before she falls asleep. I want her to know what is going in, therefore I let her peek. She gets to hear exactly what I am reading (bible included) so she knows why I come up with the ideas,sermons and blog posts I come up with. Plus it is quite fun to read to my wife. You can find ways on your own to allow your wife to peek. And I am not talking about showing her your Fantasy Football lineup.
Fellas. Your wife deserves the best of every part of you no matter what. With God in the mix of your relationship you are pretty much guaranteed to have an amazing marriage. Check out Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
9 Two are better than one, Because they have a good reward for their labor.10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up.11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone? 12 Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Husbands. Your welcome.